Sex Fu

The techniques

1. 01

   Long warm-up

   Spend much more time on kissing, touch and closeness before intercourse. Chia treats this as the main event, not a preliminary.

2. 02

   Whole-body touch

   Touch everywhere, not just the genitals, since he sees the whole body as connected by energy channels. He includes massage of the hands, feet and ears, which Taoist reflexology links to the organs.

3. 03

   Emotional connection

   Chia calls the heart the start of a woman's arousal. Eye contact, affection and feeling safe matter as much as technique.

4. 04

   Clear communication

   Ask what she likes and let her guide your hands, speed and pressure. He stresses that every woman's body is different.

5. 05

   Direct clitoral stimulation

   He treats it as central, along with the G-spot, and encourages using hands and mouth, not just intercourse.

6. 06

   Vary depth and rhythm

   The classic Taoist pattern is "nine shallow, one deep." Shallow strokes stimulate the most sensitive outer area, and varying the pattern keeps arousal building.

7. 07

   Last longer

   The man's ejaculation control, from The Multi-Orgasmic Man, is what gives her the time she needs. The tools are breathing, PC squeezes and pausing near the edge.

8. 08

   Stay near the peak

   Instead of rushing to a single climax, he teaches riding the high point of arousal, which he says opens the way to multiple and longer orgasms.

9. 09

   Breathe together and spread the energy

   Partners match their breathing, then draw sexual energy up the spine (the "orgasmic upward draw"). He says this turns a genital orgasm into a whole-body one.